PLEASE HELP!!! My son's mother is VERY unfit!!!!!
My son's mother has garbage all throughout her house
(usually), has a 160 lb. rotweiler (sp.?), a pit bull/akita
shepherd mix, and another large mix. The dogs belong to her
mother that she lives with. The dogs are there for
protection because the grand mother sells crack, borrows
money all the time, and put her ex that is a convicted
rapist and murderer back into prison people he knows want
her whole family dead.
When my son gets sick his mother will not take hium to an
ER or a doctor. She won't because she had traumatic
experiences when she was young (ie; seeing her father in
hospitals and nursing homes all the time).
She ended up with getting engaged to a guy that she met
over the phonme that lived across the country and they
swing and do drugs and drink in front of my son.
When my son's mother had an apartment and was also living
with her mother, many people called DCFS because there was
garbage literally covering most of the floor and there were
broken beer bottles, cat droppings, cat urine, used kitty
litter, used condoms, and marijuana roaches all over the
Many people called DCFS and of course I did call them also
when I saw what the conditions were like there. My son's
mother kept taking my son over there and had him playing
around in all thatv filth! But when I called to follow up
with DCFS it turned out that she was not found guilty of
anything at all and they acted like I made everything up
when the investigator that I had spoken with told me
herself that she had been in the apartment before she even
caught up with my son's mother and she saw how deplorable
the conditions were.
I am suing for sole custody and I started the case last
Summer. My child is two as of last December. I waited to
file a case because every time I mentioned even seeing my
son, his mother would take off for up to 9 months at a time
and told me that I would not ever see him. Finally I knew
that I had to file.
I do have a very good attorney and we have gone for
emergency custody before because of my son's mother leaving
the state but the judge just ordered both of us to stay in
When I told my lawyer that I wanted to have a private
investigator check things out she said that it was not time
to do that yet unless it's something serious that I can
Can some one elaborate on that?
I also had an idea. You may get the wrong impression but my
focus is on what is best for my son, not trashing his
She goes out and gets drunk and high and she drives that
way. I thought that if I had a P.I. catch her on film doing
what she does and then getting behind the wheel, he could
call 911 and box her in right after she started up her car
so that she could not get away and there would be no
dangerous chase. If she was charged with a DUI and drug
posession it would prove some of my allegations and I could
be awarded temporary custody and then full custody.
But my lawyer said that if I did that, my son could end up
in DCFS custody or my son's mother would have her fiance
pick my son up and then move across the country with him.
My lawyer did say that if it happened right before a court
date it would be different but I don't get a lot of this.
I'm not sure why you think you have a good attorney. If everything you outline is true, an effective attorney should be able to build evidence via depositions and perhaps a private investigator and then go for an emergency hearing based upon hard evidence.
The kind of mother you're describing should not be difficult to demonstrate unfit.
That said, if you're not much better, then the child may end up in foster care. I have no idea what your skeletons are, what your home is like, if you do drugs, if you're fit to be a parent, etc.
If you're fit to be a parent and don't have major issues that would threaten a child's welfare, this should be a slam dunk case.
It feels like I'm missing quite a bit of information here. Sorry I can't be of more help.
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