i filed a restraining order against my wife. she had slapped
me, hit me,(this was not the first time)and walked down the
middle of a curvy road carring the baby. Now the reason she
took off walking was because i had taken her van keys. I
done this because she does not have a right to rip the baby
from the home everytime she does not get her way. I then
took her the van. The restraining order was issued and i was
granted temporary custody until the hearing. Before the
hearing came i ws served with divorce papers. I had
contacted mutual people to let her know the van payment was
due. So the day before the hearing i took the van (it was
pruchaced in my name only because her credit is so
terrible). My attorney told me i needed only the witness i
had on the day of our last encounter. Yet my wife's
attorney brought up stuff from a year ago. She lied, which
can be easily proved and was awarded custody. My new lawyer
says that the lying is no big deal and he seems very
passive, smart but passive. He also states we can not ask
for joint and that both parents have to agree. He also says
my chances are slim. I recommended a psyc test which he
agreed. Yet friends that know her say they believe she is
manipulative enough to beat it, and if anyone is it would be
my wife. This is her second divorce in 16 months and there
are 3 step children involved which i truly adore. Now i only
see my daughter every other weekend and my wife has even
denied me any chance of going to see my daughter at daycare.
She has even stated that the only way i would miss her or
the only way she can get me is to take the baby from me.
This daddy needs help, advice, and any prayers that may be
Thanks for writing.
Though I can certainly toss a prayer your way, I really don't have much specific advice for you. Check into the book Win Your Child Custody War
by Hardwick. There's a link to it (and further description) on my Recommended Books
I agree that you should be pushing for psych evaluations. Don't worry about whether or not she can trick a clinical psychologist.
I don't know how the restraining order got turned around, but that doesn't bode well for you. I suggest you take a polygraph examination and deny that you did whatever she claims you did. That's assuming that you would be telling the truth, of course. You can show the polygraph results to your custody evaluator.
Spend every possible minute with your daughter that you're allowed.
Keep a journal of any exchanges or conversations you have with your ex.
Consult with a second family law attorney in your area just to get a second opinion. If that attorney says the same thing as your current attorney, then you're likely getting valid advice.
This website gives common sense advice that is not intended to act as legal guidance nor psychological guidance. The author is neither an attorney nor licensed psychologist. For specific legal guidance or specific psychological guidance, consult with a licensed professional.