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Father wants to know how to find a good family law attorney

Your Question:
I am coming to you in hopes of locating a GOOD fathers' right attorney. We are exhausted at what most lawyers here in California have put us through. Before we can even get our lawyer to return our calls they have already spent all of our retainer funds.

Can you offer any advice or point me in the right direction of finding a Good lawyer that looks out for his client?

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My Answer:

The best way to get a good lawyer is by direct referral from friends or colleagues who were happy with their own attorneys. But such referrals aren't always available.

So, I'll suggest that you worry less about "fathers' rights" and worry more about overall experience and competence.

I would sooner have a family law attorney with 20 years' experience, than one who claims to fight for fathers but only has 5 years' experience.

Here's why: with every case managed by an attorney comes learning opportunities in tactics, strategies, defenses, and offenses. With every case comes opportunity to get to know the styles of opposing counsels, custody evaluators, and local judges.

An attorney with at least 10 years' experience in one local geography has built up a wealth of knowledge about judges' biases, opposing counsels' way of working, strategies that have been successful, strategies that have failed, and so on.

A less experienced attorney is at a disadvantage against all that.

So... where to find the ones that advocate strongly for their clients?

Spend two days sitting in your local family law courtrooms. Seriously. They're open to the public. Sit in on hearings in front of your own judge too.

When you observe an attorney who is aggressive for his/her client, who doesn't irritate the judge, and who isn't intimidated by opposing counsel; follow him/her into the hallway and ask for a business card.

By the end of two days, you should have a handful of business cards.

Then, go to your state's Bar website and look up each attorney. You'll want to see how long they've been licensed (i.e., a fair indicator of experience) and if they've ever been disciplined by the Bar (stay away from those attorneys).

After that, set up a few interviews with the three attorneys who were most impressive in court and who have been licensed the longest.

If you go through this exercise, chances are high that you'll end up with a competent attorney who can advocate strongly for you and have the best possible shot at getting the outcome you're seeking.

Good luck.


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