My fiance and I seperated 4 mo. ago. Our 3 and 4 yr old
boys are currently living with her and her
mother,sister,sisters boyfriend. I havent been able to see
my kids for going on a month now. She says she is still
angry with me. She also says she is afraid I will be
drinking when I pick them up. (COMPLETELY NOT TRUE) She is
making false accusations towards me and I dont know why. I
am an occasiional drinker, maybe once or twice a month. I
havent even spoken with her for about 3 wks. I call and
get no answer, and no callback. Actually the last time I
went to pick them up for a visit. Her sister called the
cops on me before I even got out of my car. Dont know why.
Her sister is a convicted cocaine dealer, and her
boyfriend just got out of prison a week ago for drug and
violence convictions. Is there anything I can do about
this? I cannot afford an attorney right now but I
desperetly want to see my kids. Ive called and left
messages that my patience is running thin with this
situation. I should note that I have pictures of her
posing for me when we first got together 6 yrs ago. I
dont want to embarrass her and honestly I dont want to do
anything that would ever hurt her but I am at my whits end
here. Also her sister has told me several times that I
dont have any rights to my kids. I dont know why her
family hates me now. We were always kind to eachother. I
dont even know why she left me in the first place. We
hadnt even argued for years. No cheating, no violence. I
was dumbfounded but now I want is to be able to see my
Thanks for writing.
Most guys have the sense to not threaten sharing nude pictures of their girlfriends as a part of child custody proceedings. You're a moron in this regard. Such pictures (unless they show the mother molesting a kid) are completely irrelevant and would completely backfire on you if you ever raised it as an issue.
You need to file a paternity action in your county, seeking emergency orders to outline a custodial schedule.
You want to outline that you shared in the parenting of both kids for the past few years when you and the mother lived together.
The mother will respond with her lies, but don't worry about it unless she has evidence or credible witness testimony.
Most importantly, even though you said you can't afford it, you need an attorney on this. Your perspective of how to proceed is SO off-base, and you could easily become your own enemy.
Max out your credit cards, borrow money from family, or do whatever it takes to retain a family law attorney who has at least 10 years experience in your county.
Because you were never married, you have NO parental rights until a court orders it. The more time that goes by without you seeing your kids, the worse your case becomes.
Your job this week is to retain an attorney. Your job next week is to file your legal action.
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