Advice from someone who has been in your shoes

Parenting Plans - by CustodyIQ


  • A court isn't going to touch religion with a ten-foot pole due to constitutional issues, but you can attempt to come to understanding about it in your parenting plan. For example, "Each parent shall be entitled to expose the children to any religious practice (or not) during that parent's respective custodial time." OR "Parents agree that children shall attend Sunday School at XYZ temple every Sunday unless otherwise agreed between parents."
  • Why hire a babysitter if the other parent is available? By having a clause addressing right of first refusal, parents can avoid childcare expense and also appreciate more time with their kids. Language can be akin to, "If a parent shall be unavailable for more than 3 hours during his/her custodial time, that parent shall offer the other parent the opportunity to care for the children prior to hiring or arranging for a childcare provider."

  • Consider include a clause that the orders may be modified through mutual written agreement made between parents. Then it'd get filed anew (with modifications) with the court.

  • You may consider having a clause that requires mediation before filing any action to modify the parenting plan. Worded correctly (consult an attorney) this could help you avoid being blind-sided by future legal filings. Also, it sets the stage that you and the other parent will always first try to work things out in a peaceful, productive way.


NOTE: I've found what I consider to be two very good sources for high-quality parenting plans. One offers a set of downloadable plans that you can modify, the other lets you create a parenting plan online and modify it.

Both of the sites above have the same 'parent' company and have the same plans. The only difference is that the online version also lets you share revisions with guests (your ex, your attorney, etc). This may or may not be useful, depending on your circumstances.

This website gives common sense advice that is not intended to act as legal guidance nor psychological guidance. The author is neither an attorney nor licensed psychologist. For specific legal guidance or specific psychological guidance, consult with a licensed professional.

© 2005 - 2008 All Rights Reserved.