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Parenting Plans - by CustodyIQ


By and large, the specific details of your parenting plan are far more important than the label of custody. Whatever the plan says you can do, or can't do, has the biggest impact on your role as a parent.

That said, there is NO good reason that two healthy, involved parents living in the same city should have anything but joint physical and joint legal custody. If you wish to be involved with raising your children, never agree to anything but joint physical and joint legal custody.

If you're concerned that if you don't have sole custody, you'll have a ton of conflict; then you haven't appropriately built out your parenting plan. The parenting plan can outline exactly HOW nearly everything is done between the parents.

If a parent is far away, if a parent is unfit, or if a parent is generally uninvolved; then sole custody may be more appropriate.

But if both parents are average or better in parenting, if both parents want to be involved, then just stick "Parents shall have joint physical and joint legal custody of the minor children."

Consult with attorney on the legal aspects of all this.


NOTE: I've found what I consider to be two very good sources for high-quality parenting plans. One offers a set of downloadable plans that you can modify, the other lets you create a parenting plan online and modify it.

Both of the sites above have the same 'parent' company and have the same plans. The only difference is that the online version also lets you share revisions with guests (your ex, your attorney, etc). This may or may not be useful, depending on your circumstances.

This website gives common sense advice that is not intended to act as legal guidance nor psychological guidance. The author is neither an attorney nor licensed psychologist. For specific legal guidance or specific psychological guidance, consult with a licensed professional.

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